Domestic Violence Divorce – How Abusers Use The System To Invalidate Domestic Violence Survivors

Victims of domestic abuse reach out to the system for help in stopping the abuse perpetrated upon them. This can involve both healthcare and law enforcement. Yet, what actually happens, more often than most people know, is that these so-called “helpers” can be used to perpetuate domestic violence “legally” during divorce. In healthcare, it’s the [...]

Emotional Psychological Abuse: Who Knows What’s Best For You?

“I know what’s best for you…better than you do.” Sound familiar? If you are in an intimate relationship that has emotional psychological abuse, you know this message, whether delivered directly or indirectly. The message says, “You need to trust my wisdom—over your own—regarding issues specific to you.” Now, when you are living in an [...]

Healing From Emotional Abuse and the Physical Injuries of Domestic Violence

Each time I encounter the body’s ability to heal itself, I’m in awe. And to witness the role of intention in this is even more mind-boggling. As domestic violence survivors, you know the scars and wounds of battering. Did you know you can have a very active role in healing these injuries? I’m going [...]

Abusive Relationship Healing – 5 Tips for Lifting Depression After Your Abusive Relationship

It is common knowledge that when one is beaten down, they feel beaten down. So it’s no wonder that domestic abuse survivors frequently suffer from depression. We see this in individuals living in an abusive relationship, and in those having left their abuser. What is it that makes it possible for these people to [...]

Healing From Domestic Violence – the Rapture and Remedy of Writing for Domestic Abuse Survivors

I notice that when people are told to write as a) a way to keep records of the ongoing abuse episodes and domestic altercations, or b) for the healing effect, they recoil. If I didn’t know better I’d think they felt as though they were getting an assignment right out of grade school. And [...]

After the Abusive Relationship – Long-term Aid for Domestic Abuse Survivors

Do what you’re called to do and the universe will support you. You’ve probably heard this, but may be scratching your head thinking about your bills, responsibilities and all of the what ifs… This is understandable. So rather than jump in with blind faith, I want to invite your everyday casual, rational mind to [...]

Systemic Abuse: the Challenge Facing Domestic Abuse Survivors

I lived systemic abuse; I write about it, I know it from the core of my being. But, I never understood it so thoroughly until I was asked to explain it to someone whose life was altered dramatically by it. What is “systemic abuse?” The word “systemic” is defined as “relating to or [...]

Domestic Abuse Treatment – Getting Your Needs Met Covertly Or Overtly

Have you ever noticed how some people will go out of their way to avoid telling you what they want? And when you least expect it, they lift the veil to reveal their desires. If you are one of these people, you know what I’m talking about. I see this characteristic all too often, [...]