Get Your Girlfriend Back – Don’t Make These 4 Deadly Mistakes!
March 11, 2010 by admin
Filed under Surviving Stalking
Few things in life hurt as much as breaking up with your girlfriend or boyfriend, especially if you were not the one to initiate the break up. Obviously if you wanted to stay together you want to take immediate action to let your lover know this. But how you act in the first few days after a break up is critical to your chances of reuniting. Do not make these critical mistakes:
Apologizing
Do not call your ex begging for forgiveness for whatever you may or may not have done. If the break up was not your fault it comes off as especially needy and begging. To the best of your ability you should calmly agree with your ex that a relationship “break” right now would be a good idea.
Initiating Contact
Do not contact your ex for at least a couple of weeks. No texts, e-mails or calls. Do not fabricate excuses to initiate contact. If your ex wants their DVD or CDs back that desperately they will contact you. The goal is to make them curious. In most cases they will call you to see how you are doing.
Engaging in “Stalker like” Activities
Do not harass either your ex or their family or friends for reasons for the break up. No “drunk dialing”. No “text message terrorism”. Do not keep checking their My Space or Facebook for new friends or information on what they are doing. Do not go searching on on-line dating sites to see if they have put themselves “back in the market”. This is all counterproductive and breeds negative energy.
Staying At Home Grieving
Even if you want to stay in bed or at home feeling sorry for yourself, now is not the time. Getting dressed up nice and being seen out in public having fun will not only make you feel better, but will again get your ex curious. If your ex’s friends to be able to say if they ran into you that you looked great.
Once some time has passed you can focus on setting up a “small” low key date with your ex. Focus on a fun activity to reconnect, not a long dinner where you rehash all the problems that led to the break up. This step can be the first positive step in getting back together but it is vital that you handle it appropriately.
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